SEXUAL HARNESSES

Sexual Harnesses: Harnessed Pleasure and Empowerment for Modern Women

Sexual harnesses have become a powerful symbol of confidence, control, and pleasure for women exploring their sexuality—solo, with another woman, or with a partner of any gender. Whether you want to explore strap-on play, pegging, or simply add a new dimension to your intimate life, sexual harnesses are a top choice for combining empowerment and deep, shared satisfaction. This guide will explain harness basics, offer tips for choosing the right style, answer questions like what lubricant to use, and review the most popular models for women.

What Are Sexual Harnesses (Strap-Ons)?

A sexual harness is a wearable system, usually made of soft, adjustable straps—sometimes with fabric, faux leather, or silicone details—that secures one (or more) dildos or vibrators at the pelvis. Harnesses are used for penetrative play, including:

• Pegging (a woman penetrating a man anally)
• Lesbian sex, often for vaginal or anal penetration
• Double penetration (with two attachments, for any partner)
• Mutual power dynamics and role reversal exploration

Popular Types of Sexual Harnesses for Women

• O-Ring Harnesses: Use an O-ring to secure most standard dildos—swap out toys as desired for total customization.
• Double Strap or Jock-Style: Two thighs straps and a waist strap; offers stable, secure fit, and full access to the genitals for stimulation.
• Thong-Style: Created for comfort, lightweight, and easy to slip on and off, often one-size-fits-most.
• Vac-U-Lock and Modular Harnesses: Compatible with special attachment systems, allowing you to use dildos, vibrators, and accessories from the same brand for seamless swapping.
• Strapless Strap-Ons: Technically not a harness, but designed for one partner to wear inside (with a bulb) while penetrating the other. Great for close connection, though less stable for rough play.

How to Choose the Best Sexual Harness for You

• Consider body fit and adjustability—most harnesses are adjustable, but check for plus sizes or petite sizing if needed.
• Padding and fabric: Soft, body-safe fabrics (cotton, vegan leather, silicone) ensure comfort and durability.
• O-ring vs. Vac-U-Lock: O-ring is most versatile; Vac-U-Lock provides extra strength, especially for larger dildos or vigorous play.
• Pairing with toys: Check that your chosen dildo(s) are compatible—the base must fit the ring or system.
• Cleaning: Look for harnesses that are machine washable or wipe-clean; hygiene is crucial for intimate gear.

How to Use a Sexual Harness (and What Lubricant to Use)

• Choose your favorite compatible dildo/vibe and insert it securely into the harness ring.
• Adjust straps for a snug, non-chafing fit. You should be able to move, squat, and thrust comfortably.
• Generously apply a water-based lubricant to the dildo and the receiving partner’s body for effortless, exciting penetration.
• Silicone-based lube can be used with glass or metal toys. Do not use silicone lube with silicone dildos as this can damage the material.
• Explore positions and paces with your partner—communication and consent enhance every moment.
• Clean the harness and toy(s) before and after every use, following manufacturer instructions for straps and insertables.

Top Sexual Harnesses Recommended for Women

• Sportsheets Divine Diva: Size-inclusive, plush, adjustable, O-ring compatible—top choice for comfort and versatility.
• Aslan Jaguar Harness: Luxe, vegan leather, double strap, fits most bodies and standard dildos.
• ShareVibe by Fun Factory: Strapless, rechargeable vibrator double dildo, ideal for lesbian play.
• Sincerely Lace Harness: Stylish, feminine, and high quality for body confidence.
• Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Platinum Harness: Modular—with dozens of compatible toys and accessories.

Lolatoys’ Opinion on Sexual Harnesses for Women

At Lolatoys, we see harnesses as the ultimate symbol of feminine confidence, creativity, and sexual self-determination. Whether you’re using a harness to give a partner pleasure, explore power play, or simply delight in new sensations, the key is comfort, open communication, and lots of body-safe lube. Choose a harness that celebrates your body, honors your needs, and brings every fantasy to life—on your own terms. Empower your pleasure!